How you see yourself is everything. You can believe what the world says about you which contains some truth, but as Graham Cooke says, there is a BIGGER truth here that we must believe. (see the 119 things God says about you).
While it may be true that you are an enormously fearful person, the BIGGER truth is that God hasn't given you a spirit of fear, but of power-love-and a sound mind.
It may be true that you are lonely and desire a mate, but the BIGGER truth is that God says you are complete in Him.